They say time heals all wounds, but not without creating others. As we journey through the course of our lives, we carry hurts and pains of days gone by. They form like sores within our soul, festering and growing. Until an infection bursts forth from our mouths, spewing onto everything we encounter. Contagious and vile this infection is, causing an internal death. Laying half dead, with our final breath we release. We release the decades of tears and torture. With our final breath we heal.

Battered and bruised we pull ourselves to our feet, and we begin the next phase of our journey. Although our souls have begun to heal, the devastating scars remain. Although one may never see the physical ramifications of this brutal encounter, The heart will never forget. It is etched within our very fiber, forming the strength and courage for tomorrow.

As the hours turn into days and the days drift into weeks, the weeks into months and the months to years, our memories keep us grounded to a time that once was and then a page is turned, and the book is closed. And time, heals all wounds.

Recognizing triggers in our lives. Let’s unpack. Triggers are verbal or physical actions that provoke an emotional or mental reaction in us. Typically, a negative one in some way, shape or form. These are life’s red flags for our soul. These are areas that require our attention.

Most people will walk around lashing out onto others when a trigger is felt. What we need to understand is whatever caused that trigger was simply the ignition, we carried the catalyst within us. See, we all have areas that are either unhealed or in the process, but many times these triggers are aides to help us see things within us that go unnoticed.

Whenever this happens in our lives, we need to step back and figure out why it was we were triggered in the first place. Until we are aware of ourselves fully, we will fall prey to triggers. Depending on where we are on our life’s mission will determine how quickly we will be able to move through each trigger.

Our mission is to fully know ourselves better than we know anything else. Once we understand why we act or react in all manners in which we do, people, places and things will always have control over our lives and over our energy.

One who is unaware is like one who is blind. They flail around reckless in the dark. Throwing all of their tainted souls hurt and pain onto anyone who happens on their path. This only puts forth more pain and suffering into the world. Breeding toxicity and animosity.

Healing and getting to know one’s self is not a selfish act, it is a requirement that brings forth not only peace within but unity as a whole. It is the secret weapon in this game of life. The recipe for tranquility and growth, prosperity and abundance internally. Something we all must strive towards.

What I know to be true is this, there is nothing outside of us that will ever set us free, feed us security or make us happy. There is nothing outside of us that will give us our confidence or make us become peaceful. If we do not find all of this within ourselves, we simply will not have it. We may find “temporary” pleasure in things but eventually we will move on to the next exciting endeavor.

Because an unhealed soul is a thirsty one. One that will never be quenched. See, what we sometimes fail to consider is that there is all we need to become whole within ourselves, but it isn’t nearly as easily obtained as it is from external sources, which is why there are so many lost and wounded individuals wondering around in today’s society selling themselves short in every aspect of life.

It’s fun to move in but no one likes to unpack. Which is exactly what is required to become whole. Healing on any level is not easy, as a matter of fact it’s downright ugly and can become very messy. Like unpacking, we must internalize every little part of ourselves. Break ourselves down and get to know what makes us tick. Learn who we are as individuals and dissect the causes and effects of all of our behaviors.

Figure out what has been learned over time and programmed into us via social norms and interactions. In a nut shell, we must learn how to reprogram ourselves in order to become our true authentic self. Remodeling is never a short-term sort of thing. It takes a lot of time and energy, patience and perseverance. If there is any one thing in our short lives we must never do, its throw the towel in on ourselves. Never cut corners on our own internal growth and prosperity.

In the following blogs, I’d like to take this journey with you. Provoking a profound thought process that will allow for not only personal engagement but shine light onto the darker sides of our inner beings. As I share my journey with you, my hope is that it will inspire change and growth, it will trigger a spark within your souls that will move you into a change for the better in your own lives.

The Journey

29 Jun 2024 18:43

As we journey through this thing called life, there are so many things we must learn along the way. I like to compare it to a game. The further you move along, you acquire things, these things can be good or bad, healthy or toxic. Each experience leaves us with something that we take away from it. We begin this process as soon as we are old enough to see and hear. They become spiritual impressions that we carry with us through every new encounter with others. They shape us into who and what we become. These experiences can scar us for life and can cause such deep seeded soul wounds that we carry within us our entire lives. We may know things impacted us but literally have no idea to what extent and attempting to heal from these things can take our entire lives. We then find ourselves on a repeat phase, where every encounter we have now harbors those same toxic habits, we grew up with or found in other toxic relationships. Whether that be a person, place or thing. How do we make it stop? How do we move forward from it all? You heal. And that may seem like an overwhelming thought. Where to begin? We begin by taking a good look at ourselves. We begin to dissect everything about ourselves. Get to know how we tick, so to speak. This is something no one wants to do. It’s simply thought to be easier to move through life carrying that heaviness from one place to another. Never unpacking just adding to with each new encounter, until……. It simply becomes too much. This may look different to everyone. It could be depression, addiction, prison, or death in the most extreme cases. These are all just symptoms of the real rooted issue, which is unhealed toxic patterns that have molded us over time. The loss you encountered as a child through death of a loved one, the abusive childhood home Etc.…Sometimes we simply don’t know how to process pain. We may even blame ourselves for things that were done to us. We may harbor resentments and anger as we drag these things along. These unhealed feelings come out in our behaviors towards others on a day to day. Healing is never an easy thing. It’s ugly and raw and we will need to have strength and courage to walk through that process. There will be times we’d rather just give up. It is never a one and done thing, this is a lifelong journey that can not be avoided if we wish to become a better individual, a happier being and live our lives to the fullest. We must delve into the very things we fear, we suppressed and we ignored. What happens is whatever age we were when that specific trauma happened is basically where we stay stuck. That mental growth can only truly happen through healing. We need to understand that however we have coped up until this point is only a symptom. It became a way we dealt with our pain. Whether that be lashing out in fits of rage or anger, or a not so healthy habit we grabbed a hold of because it helped us not feel or deal. We must first get to know ourselves verses flailing through life crashing into everyone and everything that comes into our space. So, we decide this can not go on. Typically, when we are older and have been running on mental and emotional fumes for decades. Wondering if you’ll ever just feel truly happy internally. Wondering, if you’ll ever be able to truly feel as though you’re not faking it to make it. You must be ok with alone time you must get extremely comfortable with detaching from people for periods of time. Get comfortable in silence. Learn how to quiet the noise that is around us all the time via work and family life. Love yourself enough to take time to become a better version. I have found that journaling helps a great deal as well. Write down any and all thoughts that may come to you during these quiet moments. Pay attention to how you react or respond in certain situations or circumstances and note those reactions. If there is a behavior that continues to come up in your life, make note of that. Now think back on your life and pin point where that comes from? It came from somewhere, we act on learned behavioral thought processes. And it typically will always lead us to a specific trauma in our lives. That is where we begin. Each trauma tends to come with a multifaceted elemental composition. So, it’s never really a one sided thing. There will be much to unpack, but always be sure to linger. One area could take years to fully heal from but the more we become aware and do our diligence to learn about ourself and heal, the easier it will become to spot areas and know how to handle them. We are basically breaking down an old system and reprogramming ourselves in a healthier manner. You know how your body detoxes when we give up something not good for us in order to become a healthier version of ourselves? That’s what we are doing spiritually, only this impacts us in all areas. Body, mind and soul. Let the Healing begin.

My Introduction

21 Jun 2024 21:57

Hello, My name is Yvonne. I'm just an average woman with a lot of history. Let's just say, I've been through some stuff. I've learned along the way that my past does not define me, but it's been quite a journey and it's taken me a very long time to believe in myself. I've done this healing thing in solitude, with very little aide of others. Along this path it hasn't always been the easiest and it's definitely been lonely. I've come to realize that this healing thing can be a long one and growth is never ending. But I believe that our stories are meant to be told. We are meant to be courageous and bold. To share our trauma with others, prompting encouragement. Not only for hope, but to allow them to know they are not alone. My hope is that in baring my soul, you too will allow me a peak into yours. Let the Journey begin.

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Join me as I share my personal journey of healing, growth, and transformation. Through intimate stories and reflections, I hope to inspire you to find your own path out of the wreckage.

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Out of the Wreckage is a heartfelt blog dedicated to sharing the intimate details of my healing journey. Born from the desire to turn pain into purpose, this blog serves as a beacon of hope for anyone navigating through their own struggles. Here, you will find raw and honest stories that delve into the depths of personal hardship and the triumphs of overcoming them. The aim is to create a safe space where readers can connect, feel understood, and find the encouragement to embark on their own paths of healing and growth. Each post is crafted with the intent to uplift and inspire, reminding you that even in the darkest moments, there is a light to be found. Whether you are here to seek solace or simply to gain insight into the power of resilience, Out of the Wreckage welcomes you with open arms.