The Journey

As we journey through this thing called life, there are so many things we must learn along the way. I like to compare it to a game. The further you move along, you acquire things, these things can be good or bad, healthy or toxic. Each experience leaves us with something that we take away from it. We begin this process as soon as we are old enough to see and hear. They become spiritual impressions that we carry with us through every new encounter with others. They shape us into who and what we become. These experiences can scar us for life and can cause such deep seeded soul wounds that we carry within us our entire lives. We may know things impacted us but literally have no idea to what extent and attempting to heal from these things can take our entire lives. We then find ourselves on a repeat phase, where every encounter we have now harbors those same toxic habits, we grew up with or found in other toxic relationships. Whether that be a person, place or thing. How do we make it stop? How do we move forward from it all? You heal. And that may seem like an overwhelming thought. Where to begin? We begin by taking a good look at ourselves. We begin to dissect everything about ourselves. Get to know how we tick, so to speak. This is something no one wants to do. It’s simply thought to be easier to move through life carrying that heaviness from one place to another. Never unpacking just adding to with each new encounter, until……. It simply becomes too much. This may look different to everyone. It could be depression, addiction, prison, or death in the most extreme cases. These are all just symptoms of the real rooted issue, which is unhealed toxic patterns that have molded us over time. The loss you encountered as a child through death of a loved one, the abusive childhood home Etc.…Sometimes we simply don’t know how to process pain. We may even blame ourselves for things that were done to us. We may harbor resentments and anger as we drag these things along. These unhealed feelings come out in our behaviors towards others on a day to day. Healing is never an easy thing. It’s ugly and raw and we will need to have strength and courage to walk through that process. There will be times we’d rather just give up. It is never a one and done thing, this is a lifelong journey that can not be avoided if we wish to become a better individual, a happier being and live our lives to the fullest. We must delve into the very things we fear, we suppressed and we ignored. What happens is whatever age we were when that specific trauma happened is basically where we stay stuck. That mental growth can only truly happen through healing. We need to understand that however we have coped up until this point is only a symptom. It became a way we dealt with our pain. Whether that be lashing out in fits of rage or anger, or a not so healthy habit we grabbed a hold of because it helped us not feel or deal. We must first get to know ourselves verses flailing through life crashing into everyone and everything that comes into our space. So, we decide this can not go on. Typically, when we are older and have been running on mental and emotional fumes for decades. Wondering if you’ll ever just feel truly happy internally. Wondering, if  you’ll ever be able to truly feel as though you’re not faking it to make it. You must be ok with alone time you must get extremely comfortable with detaching from people for periods of time. Get comfortable in silence. Learn how to quiet the noise that is around us all the time via work and family life. Love yourself enough to take time to become a better version. I have found that journaling helps a great deal as well. Write down any and all thoughts that may come to you during these quiet moments. Pay attention to how you react or respond in certain situations or circumstances and note those reactions. If there is a behavior that continues to come up in your life, make note of that. Now think back on your life and pin point where that comes from? It came from somewhere, we act on learned behavioral thought processes. And it typically will always lead us to a specific trauma in our lives. That is where we begin. Each trauma tends to come with a multifaceted elemental composition. So, it’s never really a one sided thing. There will be much to unpack, but always be sure to linger. One area could take years to fully heal from but the more we become aware and do our diligence to learn about ourself and heal, the easier it will become to spot areas and know how to handle them. We are basically breaking down an old system and reprogramming ourselves in a healthier manner. You know how your body detoxes when we give up something not good for us in order to become a healthier version of ourselves? That’s what we are doing spiritually, only this impacts us in all areas. Body, mind and soul. Let the Healing begin.